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But does the sexy swag of a prisoner outweigh the risks of loving a violent offender?Writer Julie Bindel of the British newspaper I once interviewed a woman who was waiting for a man to be released from a life sentence she had met via the prison pen pal service.Behind this façade, sites with names like act as bridges that transform long-distance friends into lovers.Arlen Bischke started a prisoner pen-pal site called in 1998 to help prisoners connect to the outside world.Experts on the phenomenon believe that the emotional intensity of dating someone behind bars is actually extremely addictive.Others observe that law-abiding citizens seek anti-social lovers because they are unable to be truly intimate within a typical commitment. Then there is always the eternal appeal of the bad boy (or girl).
Women like Bandele insist that a prisoner’s appeal lies in the fact that the relationship blossoms through enriching communication and non-physical intimacy before sexuality influences one’s attachment.Christian Science Monitor reports that the online prisoner dating industry has grown from humble beginnings 1996 into a robust market today.Leading sites boast “between 7,000 and 10,000 ads” featuring prisoners seeking to connect.Posing in spruced-up versions of their prison uniforms, prisoners use these sites to sell themselves to potential pen pals and describe the types of people they want to meet.One compelling prospect, Israel Cosme, age 30, displays his perfectly toned chest to visitors of telling all takers, “I love to laugh and have been told I have a great sense of humor.” Precious Johnson in her profile on the same site cracks a cute smile above the message: “I am looking for a nice, patient, funny, and understanding man for a genuine friendship that could possibly lead to more.” Few prisoners in the United States have Internet access; therefore, for the incarcerated to make that special connection online, someone on the outside must get them started. With fees in the range of -75, prisoner dating sites charge willing friends to list an inmate’s vital statistics on the web — or the company can mail the necessary forms to the wannabe lover behind bars who then mails them in.
(Meet-an-inmate does not charge for this service.) even boasts a Facebook-like interface complete with status updates to make the selection process more appealing.