No interest in dating after divorce
maybe all we need is time to heal, but what if the healing never happens?
(and yes I'm talking to professionals about all of this) WOW I feel the same way..... I understand how many of you feel, especially since I came out of a 22 year marriage.
The past two years have been so stressful and hellish, that I could never trust a man ever again.
I know there are great fellas out there, but I know that I am so damaged, and I don't see myself as material for any kind of successful relationship.
I can carry on alone, and I do have my three kids who I adore and have a lot of fun with, but an intimate relationship is something I don't think I will ever consider again. I do have to say I find it rather odd though to see so many wanting to jump right into a new situation, even before their divorce is final. I would need time and lots of it just to rediscover the person I am. Even people that date soon after a divorce seem so alien to me. while reading the title of this thread a feeling of resignment came over me...
Dating while separated can be just what you need or the last thing you need.
You don't want to make your ex angry before the divorce is final, unless you're willing to deal with a protracted battle and a potentially expensive settlement, instead of an amicable no-fault divorce.
Your ex might be willing to accept that the marriage just wasn't working out -- the divorce might even be her idea -- but if you start dating before she's ready for it then she can make things very difficult for both of you.
If you have children together, it's especially important not to provoke unnecessary conflict with your ex before custody arrangements have been fully worked out.
Every marriage is different, every separation is different and every divorce is different.