Dating someone 15 years older
My question to 40-something women is how comfortable would you be with that age difference, especially if you get along really well?
Are older men just more appealing when you’re younger or is it a matter of being a young soul or an old soul and a good connection?
Let me explain: when he gets home from work and you’ve either been working too, or completely forgotten what time it is—he won’t say anything stupid.
Instead, he’ll either throw a meal together himself because he’s gotten quite good at it, or be ridiculously happy with toasted cheese and tomato soup because it’s way, way better than the burnt hamburgers he ate for years.
I grew up the only child of older parents (who are also 10 years apart), and often felt like an awkward old lady trapped inside a teeny-bopper’s body. I admit, I wasn’t as physically attracted to him as I had been to other partners. Have you ever seen a girl with a hideous boyfriend and thought, “Seriously, how the f$*k did he pull that off? Either he's just a nice friggin’ dude; or being with him boosts her self-confidence. In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
I don’t believe that there is any “right” age for someone to marry, nor do I believe that a girl to marry someone older than her. Whenever women talk about hitting thirty, or forty, or fifty (or any other age that causes them to have a slight crisis), you can always smile a little.
And, of course, I’m only sharing from my limited experience. Getting older is as easy as puddin’ pie because in your circle?
I don’t want to stop just please those around me, so that they can welcome me to their gatherings, and not make me feel like an outcast. You’re strong enough to know what you want, you don’t care what other people think as much and at that point your social circle will include a wide variety of ages.
Somewhere in your 30s common interests prevail over common ages, particularly with so many people having children later.
Then I know men who married the younger woman who thought she was mature.