Adventist programs on dating and reggie dating
My parents always told me I would go to college, meet a nice guy, graduate, get married, and live happily ever after—in that order.So when I went to college and met a nice guy and started dating with the intent to get married, I couldn’t understand why they were mortified. During that relationship my mom told me I should be “dating around,” meeting lots of people, and getting to know different personality types.The plan seemed foolproof, especially when Harris argued that traditional dating had many flaws.According to Umstattd, those in favor of courtship were trying to return some sanctity to the process of finding a spouse.“Adventist education is the most expensive dating service you can pay for.”At first I thought he was joking, but the concerned father was, as he put it, serious.
Dating in Grandma’s generation meant dating casually and getting to know many different people. Today we’d look at it as the difference between hanging out and being in a relationship.
However, along the way concepts and guidance for relationships and finding your significant other have varied from “date everyone” to “date no one and wait for God to bring the right person into your life.” Confusing?
But perhaps the reason the sometimes skewed path to marriage is so confusing for some can be traced back to a book.
Courtship was a way to compensate for the hookup and breakup dating culture that took root in the 1960s and 1970s.
What we are left with today can be considered a hybrid of courtship and dating methods.